Words are very powerful, they can bring existence, life or death, freedom or bondage. They can bring peace or war. There is no doubt words have power. That is why we have curses and blessings. In fact, we read that life and death is in the power of the tongue. Words can destroy a family, a relationship. Words can cause death.
What you speak, what you allow to come from your mouth amplifies an inner thought or desire. The moment you speak it; you give it form, a form of existence, a life. When you speak negative words, you in actuality create an attraction towards negativity, yet you can influence the same power to attract positivity, by speaking positive words.
Siddhārtha Gautama, the renowned spiritual teacher from ancient India who founded Buddhism once said;”Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill”.
For those with children, you can build or destroy your child through the words you speak to them. If you speak words such as ‘you will never make it, you are a failure, you can never make it in life, you are this and you are that…do not be surprised later in life when your child does not make it because that is what you spoke to them, they believed it and it came to pass. They never knew anything else, and that is what they became. Words have the same authority you have over the people you speak to. If you speak curse to people you have authority over, they are cursed. If you speak blessing over people you have authority over, they are blessed.
It’s amazing how rough and angry words are thrown to children by their parents, or an angry spouse to the other, a teacher to the pupil. Yet the secret to influencing change is not by shouting negative words, but speaking words of life in love. When you speak in anger, it not only reflects what is inside of you, but in return, it also makes you angrier. If you are wise, the sooner you stop speaking in anger, the lesser the damage you will cause.
No doubt, children or people we love do make us angry, but before we set the house on fire with the words, we speak, pause for a moment and consider if it’s worth it. We have all been victims at one time or another- maybe by hearing negative words or by being their source. Marriages are broken not by sticks and rock but by words. Children run away from home not because of sticks and rocks, but harsh words. Relationships are broken because of words. Words can break and words can heal. Handle words carefully, you could destroy a life you cannot recreate.
Pearl Strachan Hurd, a 1930 British politician once said; “handle words carefully, for they have more power than atom bombs”.
Words are harmless when they are unspoken; after all, they are only thoughts, but when spoken they become alive. In the Bible, Apostle James, urges the people to be slow to speak and quick to listen. When you are slow to speak you are able to process what you hear, and respond more appropriately, thoughtfully, and thus bringing only creative words to live. See what the bible again says in Matthew 12:37 “For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” The power of the words that come from your mouth can either set you free or put you in chains!
There’s an Arabian proverb that says; “when you have spoken the word, it reigns over you. When it is unspoken you reign over it”.
Think about the words you have spoken today. Did they cause life or death? If you are wise enough, you will rise up and apologize, if you are too proud, will let it pass, not caring what damage those words will cause on the person you spoke them to. This is what the bible tells us about the words, we speak, “but I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the Day of Judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned,” (Matt. 12:36).